The definition of a blind spot is ‘an area where a person’s view is obstructed.’

I don’t know about you but over the years I’ve had a number of areas where there were things I just couldn’t see that were pretty obvious to others. I tried to see where others were coming from but it just didn’t make sense to me.

A personal example. I really thought it was my duty to give every ounce of energy I had to my job. Even when I could see that others were having a lot more fun as they adopted a more 9-5 approach. I was blind to the fact that I too could have made this choice. It just wasn’t even on my radar. I didn’t even question why I was often one of the last ones at work. I guess I figured that was just the nature of my job and me being determined to ‘do it as well as I possibly could’.

Once I twigged, once I could see what was happening, I couldn’t go back. I felt a huge range of emotions, hurt, indignation, undervalued, used, all ‘poor me’ thinking. I now see how ‘outside-in’ this was. The truth is it was my response to work, to proving myself, to ‘getting it right’, in some weird way I had the feeling that the sky would fall in if I didn’t ‘give-my-all’. I set the whole thing up. Innocently. It was one of my blind spots.

How we experience being alive
‘moment-to-moment’
is completely influenced by our thinking.

Often this seems like it can’t possibly be true…another blind spot maybe?

We can get caught up thinking that how we’re feeling is a result of someone:
– being rude to us,
– cutting us up in traffic,
– tailgating us,
– not doing what they said they would do,
– or us being under pressure to meet a deadline
…an endless list of possibilities.

But can this be true?

Are we really at the effect of other people’s behavior, whims, tantrums or demands?

Whilst the things listed above do happen to me from time to time, I don’t always respond in the same way.

Sometimes the behavior of others doesn’t affect me at all, I don’t even notice it, or if I do, I can see they’re not in a good space and it’s nothing to do with me.

Other times I take it very personally. How dare they – angry? Why would they react that way to me – hurt? I don’t deserve it – indignant?

The variable?

My state of mind

Another common blind spot for most of us is our blindness to our awesomeness. We might be able to see other’s awesomeness, but ours? Nah!

We are blinded by the thoughts that we are not enough…not good enough, not funny enough, not experienced enough, not smart enough, not old enough, not young enough, not beautiful enough…..on and on and on!

Innocently we surround ourselves in a haze of self criticism which feeds into self doubt, inadequacy and fearful self talk…we wind ourselves up mercilessly!

The Truth

It’s our thinking, which generates our response to people and events, and it’s our thinking that we experience

100% of the time

Recognising the truth about the role our minds play in how we experience life, is an amazing gift. One that’s always ready and waiting for us to receive.

We wake up, our blind spots dissolve and our view is less obstructed.

We have clarity seeing things just as they are….not as we are!

We have insights.

We experience a connection to our innate wisdom and intelligence.

A very potent and free place to be!

Therese Boyle July 2017